7 Tips to Become Your Own Best Friend
My health only became my priority when lack of health was no longer a desire.
I first had to see that I was keeping the burden of extra weight and doubt on myself.
My inner dialogue (both conscious and subconscious) and old habits together, were keeping the “old me” intact. And no matter how much I “wanted” to be healthy, self sabotage was waiting around the corner because I had yet to change my mind about myself.
The self back then, I thought no one wanted to be her friend. I felt super lucky for the friends I did have because to me…. there was so much to fix in me!! And with that belief alone, the old me hung around like n imposter I couldn’t get rid of.
This is when I began to take an inventory of the “old self” vs the “new self” I wanted to be and develop simple steps to follow that brought me (and now my clients / students) to freedom in body and mind.
I would have thoughts like:
“I have to many things to do, I cant do this (care for self in way I needed)”
“Ew I cant wear this it makes my fat bulge”
“Omg this is taking forever to see results, maybe I should just stop”
“Who do I think I am to say that I can do this or that”
“I am not good enough yet… so blah blah blah…!”
👉Any of this sound familiar?
⭐ NEW ME:
I saw that half of me wanted health, half of me wanted to keep the old habits / sabotage.
I also saw that I was doing this to myself and that I can and must change it.
I also explored my payoff in sabotage and doubt and I saw that I was getting to be “right” when I believed my thoughts about being “fat” or “unproductive” or “not good enough”…when my eyes rested on things “not yet being perfect”. And to my ego being right was way more important than being healthy. So I slipped into default, being right about who I thought I was, and what I thought I was capable of.
Loved and accepted myself exactly as I am!!!
It was this full on and complete acceptance of how I currently was, that gave permission to my self to allow change and transformation to happen. I was no longer fighting the old me, I was allowing the new/true me to be present. The split fell away and the WHOLE me emerged!!!
I was not perfect at it, but I got better everyday.
Love now leads the way, not fear of failing, or fear of what other people think or fear of the weight growing or fear of lack of health or negative thoughts. Love now leads the way, and my relationship to self has completely changed becuase I lead my thoughts and actions with love and an “I will be better every day and in every way” attitude.
I now crave time to be with myself. I love myself and really am my own best friend! But it’s because I know who I AM.
I do not love the image I made for myself (although she is pretty cute) I love WHO I AM, on the inside.
And this love for ME never changes, even if I miss some days on my self care or healthy habits.
This is why its more about the Love than anything. It is the love for Self, Others and God that heals, transforms and makes things new.
To become your own best friend, remember and apply the following:
2) You are worthy of small acts of self care /love every day
(from washing face, to squats before a shower, to a home cooked meal,
to reading a book before bed) (from washing face, to squats before a shower, to a home cooked meal, to reading a book before bed)
3)You only need to do ONE thing a day to be on your path to health and self love.
4)The one small step a day, adds up to many steps in a week, and those many steps become the foundation for which you can learn and grow more quickly.
5) Small steps, persistence and faith … is what leads to results. Focus on those.
6)Celebrate your small steps and successes everyday. Ie. “You did so good, Self. I am so proud of you for that meal planning you did while sitting on the can! 🤣”
7) Give away and share your small joys and successes with others. (as you give you receive!)
You’ve got this! Take one step everyday and focus on that, and you will be well on your way to living, being and demonstrating the love and healthy self that you are.
Are you going through a difficult time right now? Maybe could benefit from an added uplift as you make changes within you and in your kitchen? I am here for you. Contact me here. I can be a listening ear and suggest some ways I may be able to help you.
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September 2020 #ActsofLove #cooking #wholehealth #WholeandHealthyKitchen #WAHKinspired
Written By: Britney Shawley
Britney Shawley is a Toronto-based writer, speaker, mindset coach, holistic nutrition based foodie, and founder of the Whole & Healthy Kitchen. Her inspiring, engaging and down to earth approach to living a whole and healthy life, has her being named the “Marie Kondo of the Kitchen, Mindset and Self Love”. LEARN MORE